Everyone knows the saying, ‘Love is blind’. But can the rose-tinted glasses with which we see our partner at the beginning of a relationship be scientifically proven? Here’s the answer.
Some say that love makes you blind and that marriage opens your eyes. Scientists tell us what this is all about and how falling in love affects human relationships and the survival of our species.
When we fall in love, it doesn’t just have psychological effects. Our entire organism is affected. And there are good reasons for this.
The rose-coloured glasses
That love makes you blind is not just a popular belief but a fact psychology recognizes. People in love do indeed have an altered perception, not only of their partner but also of themselves.
The partner is romanticized. Their negative sides and potential flaws are hidden and ignored. Other attractive people, on the other hand, are no longer even noticed.
Distortion of perception
A study from 2010 shows that the distortion of perception has a psychological reason. This state of mind promotes relationships and bonding.
Scientists confronted two groups of men and women with each other. One group is opposed to the other. The other group is given a placebo.
They are told that it will cause mutual attraction. The placebo works and conditions the group so the members feel attracted to each other.
Another theory from 2008 claims that the illusions that lovers indulge in also have positive effects. They strengthen their self-confidence (which often makes women appear attractive to men) and the couple’s bond.
The illusion of being in love is divided into three categories: a positive self-image, optimism about the future together and an exaggerated control mechanism.
For biologists, love plays a role above all else in terms of evolution. This is because both romantic and maternal love serve, above all, to preserve and perpetuate our species.
According to neurobiologists Andreas Bartels and Semir Zeki, romantic love is a fundamental biological mechanism that helps us form long-term relationships and raise our children.
In the end, what does it matter if love is blind? The important thing is that a relationship is loving and respectful and that both partners feel loved.
Then, what they don’t see or don’t want to see is no longer important.
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