Everyone knows the saying “love makes you blind.” But can the rose-colored glasses with which we see our partner at the beginning of a relationship be scientifically proven? Here you will find the answer.
Some say that love makes you blind and that only marriage opens your eyes. Scientists tell us what this is all about and how being in love affects human relationships and the continuation of our species.
When we fall in love, it doesn’t just have psychological effects. Our entire organism is affected. And there are good reasons for this.
The rose-colored glasses
That love makes you blind is not just a popular belief but a fact recognized by psychology. People in love have an altered perception, not only of their partner but also of themselves.
The partner is romanticized. His opposing sides and potential flaws are faded out and ignored. Other attractive people, however, are not even noticed anymore.
Distortion of perception
A study from 2010 shows that the distortion of perception has a psychological reason. Quite simply, this state of mind promotes relationships and bonding with each other.
Scientists confront two groups of men and women. One group is opposed to the other. The other group is given a placebo.
They are told that it will cause mutual attraction. The placebo works and conditions the group so that the members are attracted to each other.
In 2008, another theory claimed that the illusions in which lovers indulge also have positive effects. Not only do they boost their self-esteem (which often makes forgiven women seem attractive to men), but they also strengthen the couple’s bond.
The illusion of being in love is divided into three categories: positive self-image, optimism in the face of a shared future, and an exaggerated control mechanism.
For biologists, love plays a role primarily in terms of evolution. This is because both romantic and maternal love serves mainly to preserve and perpetuate our species.
According to neurobiologists Andreas Bartels and Semir Zeki, romantic love is a fundamental biological mechanism that helps us form long-term partnerships and raise our children.
In the end, what does it matter if love makes you blind? What matters is that a relationship is loving and respectful; both feel loved.
Then what they don’t see or don’t want to see doesn’t matter much anymore. By the way, this is the perfect age difference between men and women in love.
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