“Sorry,” “Sorry, my bad,” “I’m sorry—are you one of those people who apologize for everything? You’re not alone in that! Asking for forgiveness too often hurts your image and your self-confidence. That’s why it’s essential to learn to find the correct dose and only apologize when necessary.
Why do I keep apologizing?
According to Version Femina, women tend to apologize more frequently than men. But no matter the gender, over-apologizing doesn’t make a good impression and significantly impacts your self-esteem.
You apologize several times daily for forgetting something, dropping it, speaking too loudly, or coughing. Regardless of how well-behaved you are, constantly apologizing is not helpful to anyone—not even yourself. Some will outdo you and take advantage of your kindness; others will think your apology means nothing because you say it so often.
Although this tic may stem from a lack of self-confidence, trauma, abuse, or a bad experience, it is essential to become aware of it, talk to others about it, and find a solution to stop it.
How can you stop apologizing?
This verbal tic is a nuisance. To stop it, first, try to understand where this habit comes from,
Take a moment to think. Observe the others: Do they look annoyed? Take a deep breath and stop obeying your reflexes,
Replace apologies with thank you’s, “positive” phrases: “It’s very nice of you to help me in this way,” “Thank you for listening to me,” or something similar,
Learn to be assertive,
Assert yourself. You are not inferior to others!
Note: It’s not about not apologizing at all and never questioning yourself again. You should take the time to re-evaluate a situation and find the right moment to apologize.
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